How about a BF who is still a student ?

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we fall in love about 3.5 years till now. we graduated in 2007 after the unsuccessful examination to Master. 9aB*K.xd ?OyA
I gave up the repeat examination and selected to begin working.
!Y"}2BIM he insisted on his idea and go on preparing the examination in 2008.Bv1_\ H-W
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I found the job as foreign sales in a machinery company , and work here till now. /Vk]X)S/yZ t
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I am specialized in computer science and technology for 4 years' university life. so is my boyfriend.
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it is a long and difficult process as you can imagine.

:hug:  :hug: :hug:   he also successed in his examination and he is in beijing now.
k\ ps@ he love me very much and we always think we must will be married in future even we are so distant from each other in the past 1 year.
z8k]d%f d^*`,Y*Rc? I can see the hope and foreground about our common future ,although I am alone in most of my time. how much I hope he just beside me in numberless occasion.

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after his matriculation to beijing ,he changed a lot. (maybe it is my thought)  
Dk]6Fv J%Rb I support him during the year he is striving for his test, I think it is happy thing,because I can feel he depend on me in his mind, he can not live without me , he pay all his attention on me... I fell contented and pleased. even it is so lonely specially when I am in difficulty with my works and I have to face everything myself...a 21 years old girl with a boyfriend who is still a student ,who can not help me at all even I can not tell him anything during my working also his preparing examination.

he changed so much now, we are different from before. ?Zh]u"Q!S
we still love each other ,but he won't pay all his attention on me after he is in bei jing.
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he will have many many new friends,but I can not join, he will have many many story but I can not share together.it is scared me very much.
`%akw_-j9\V6F;Qu I always thought he is the only,I can not bear the broke up after so many years' love.
C5c2S?H8k%F)J+K I almost can not think it in my mind. m(K/[Y-\vX
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Another problem is the thinking between us is so differnt now .$Qp1w$hm L
I am working, he is still a student. everything for me is so realistic but perfect for him.eRf:poO
I can not beat him to much times or must lead to the quarrel. 7n;EI B3A7V Co
it is so serious problem between the lovers that we are different in thinking.kE
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I begin to fell the hopeless for our future.

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"uEB;V*Gc A` I can be sure we are still love each other very much as bofore.
yL-{6UG but for now, Should I go to Beijing ?
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d&xC(|1^A*k7E firstly, I am terrified with beijing. I don't know how to survive there.and my working now is developed well. how can I give it up ？
zmAU H1k*Pb k secondly,in my mind,I think I am a girl, how can I go to beijing for the uncertain future now ?7@isK(_9GP.m%_#e
my boyfriend can not supply me anything,even a small room for me when looking for new job in Beijing.ohI9F%wtt:jp
thirdly: he almost can't afford the cost from beijing to dongguan during the national day's vacation. he told me himself he can 't, it hurt me . hit me to be the real life. cA`
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how can we go on the next 3 years' long distance ?ICI7]_
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I hope I can be together with him in future,I also willing to be beijing for him in future, but insist so long time for a boyfriend who is still a student ,is it worthy ?
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GIY;OP5e we always discussed, if we exchange our station , that is so great....
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I fell life will be very very difficult after the 3years student life and the working experience then. ....n8O(C/oc
Should I go to beijing ？for the boyfriend who is still a student ?
6] ih8f*OLK^#U is there some sucessful case similar to us ?
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just finished your story,you said he has changed,maybe that's just what you thought,he still loves you and so do you ...  i guess all you need is to get a conversation with him or being together for a while(it's impossible maybe)but at least you need to let him know how you feel and what you want ...haha... this is what i called 'balance'=fair enough...

:L :L i missed the fifth floor ...

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i never drop in love with anybody in 24 years so ican not give you more experneice %s;G:DT5~~C3Q@
but there are several i should mention
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second face the change ,the world is changing too
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good luck

dear friend,you are in a dilemma,you are working,but your BF is still in studying,you are lived in different city and have own different friends, what a pity!:(

hey,girl i cant give u more tips for this ,but

i cant give u more pionts about ur problem mentioned,but certainly u two cant go together finally if case like this  is still away from each other,coz three years nowadays really is a long time,specailly,for the lovers!! can u imagine how to love each other when be sepeated in such a far distance?KM R"F}7J2F
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story like this once happed to my friends before,and at last it has ended with a sorrow! ii is not a solution that only keep in touch with ur lover like this,must find a way to solve it&make it clear,otherwise,no good for both of you two!!
Uw5TQ+P0CU anyhow,think twice before u make decision!!:L
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[[i] Last edited by creazypanda at 2008-8-18 11:46 [/i]]

I think u should have a long chat with ur BF, and tell him what u think about ur future,  try to know what he is thinking about!

no matrer what you do,make sure you are happy and ture to your heart

haha... this is what i called 'balance'=fair enough... [/quote]&lU L W,eAk/]:q
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thanks

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i cant give u more pionts about ur problem mentioned,but certainly u two cant go together finally if case like this  is still away from each other,coz three years nowadays really is a long time,specailly,for the lovers!! can u imagine how to love each other when be sepeated in such a far distance?5z{(d3u8a u.h*n

JM|/A&^9W!w7ZK story like this once happed to my friends before,and at last it has ended with a sorrow! ii is not a solution that only keep in touch with ur lover like this,must find a way to solve it&make it clear,otherwise,no good for both of you two!!j Qu/}Z e#G1bf
anyhow,think twice before u make decision!!:L [/quote]
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thankyou , I know it is very dangerous for us now..
X8m-lF0Qi,C but how can I do  ? I can not give up my job now...and go go beijing without anything..k6c)oYq x
it is the problem now.2[ W6O7H q_8Q
also he is a student, I can not struggle in a strange city only myself..

you are wokring in beijing ?

Reply #15 wollice's post

How many of us will continue our college love to marriage.Very few of us will do that.
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Distance,new place,new introduction of people may alter love at any time.
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bxB$fMAlH Not all lovers will get married,its a fact.fd'?u Q{
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I suggest you to choose a good stable boy for your future as you wait for him so long and if he chosed another girl,what will you do?O M9XxMwr

5DaP"@W ]R,o1C Its not good to wait boys at any case,

no ,I am in dongguan city now.

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How many of us will continue our college love to marriage.Very few of us will do that.
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Forget past,move on with your life that can give you best.-k:z#TA+u,rIm2zk

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I suggest you to choose a good stable boy for your future as you wait for him so long and if he chosed another girl,what will you do?
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but when the lovers never planed to break up ?

Sorry to hear your stiry.My personal suggestions:Just share your feeling and your daily life including your work with your boyfriend and try to ask something about him like his life and study ,then you can know more about him.Besides,what you need to do is just do you job well at this moment and support your boyfriend's education.I think you do love each other,so you can wait for him,then you can choose to work in the same city after three years'hard working and wating.I do wish you a bright future.

If I were you,I will do everything I can to keep the one I really love.If I give up, that will be a great regret in my life.

Reply #16 motivation2002's post

OMG .seems you are speaking to a wrong person . you should turn your aim to LZ

Could you kindly tell me which district you are living at now?

Reply #22 jjlzyy's post

I am in dongguan city.:)

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4T*hXeB$X Sorry to hear your stiry.My personal suggestions:Just share your feeling and your daily life including your work with your boyfriend and try to ask something about him like his life and study ,then you can know more about him.Besides,what you need to do is just do you job well at this moment and support your boyfriend's education.I think you do love each other,so you can wait for him,then you can choose to work in the same city after three years'hard working and wating.I do wish you a bright future. [/quote]
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you are right, I think the sole thing I can do now just do my work well and know more him in the next days.
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thanks.

face it then conquer it bravely!!!!!!!j(xj4dgK
good luck:victory: :victory: :victory:

Let it be, Don't pay more attention .

Hi, Girl, come on!

You know we can't depend on anybody, anyhow much the one loves you.
@;cUz(N We, girls must learn how to live for ourselves but not for anybody. Cl,R8CJ WK
Everything is changeable, nobody can predict what happen in the future.
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$Kd+}n/fJF In a word, it is necessary and important for girls to learn how to live independently.
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(`y!k-](dh k Don't give up what you own now for the unpredictable future.:loveliness:

i know u r smart,so calm down and think the whole board!

[quote]Originally posted by [i]monicaokay[/i] at 2008-8-18 13:07 [url=http://www.fobshanghai.com/redirect.php?goto=findpost&pid=3282919&ptid=328644][img]http://www.fobshanghai.com/images/common/back.gif[/img][/url] P;c p$B g)t
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v j.]u}%n7`+\ thankyou , I know it is very dangerous for us now..
'q&H?/oT but how can I do  ? I can not give up my job now...and go go beijing without anything..(P8?"]g
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it is the problem now.
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i know u r smart,u know how to handle it!#EZ*L`m E
certainly u are in a puzzle,however,u must do sth:leave the boy or stay ur city for your bright career!l*}'NdpZ
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whatever,u must go one of the both!!in fact,u know You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Xb2e D_K4@$F case like this, the longer,the more dangerous, finally u will be hurted!

Reply #24 monicaokay's post

I do think my girlfriend will be a student,I like a girl who is still studying in my college,I am two grades elder than her,but I'm determined to keep waiting for her and accumulate social foundation for our future. I think everything can be changed by us if we don't give up.

Reply #29 willsbs's post

ok...my boyfriend said if I am in colleage , he is working , it is completely not a problem.
|5{n;_{-NZ but now. it is the girl in society..
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